The Eligible Prospective Wants ………

A young lady on a women’s site recently put up a letter they got from an eligible prospective asking the question “Would you marry this guy”?  Here is the letter:

“I want a life partner who is from a well educated, dignified, cultured, traditional and well settled family with a good background , living having own house and possess good moral values. I am looking for a girl who is Jovial, Friendly, Humorous, Generous, Confident, Honest, Humble, Loyal, Straight-forward, Stylish, Charming, Respects Elders and their Views, Loving, Understanding, Caring, Calm, Not Egoistic, Not Selfish, Not Kiddish, Not Dominating, Affectionate , Responsible, Lovable, Fair and beautiful ,broad-minded, trying her best to stay simple and who does not Nag and not to forget has cooking skills to prepare tasty delicacies and serve them daily to her partner.

I am liberal minded and not orthodox , however, i prefer the girl to follow and involve herself in religious customs and traditional practices of my family. I do not believe in fanactism and i expect the same from my partner.

My life partner should be intelligent and mature and should be able to handle all situations in life calmly and patiently. She should not be kiddish and short tempered. She should lead life in a planned and disciplined manner. She should ensure to keep herself Fit, Healthy and look Beautiful and Pretty at any time of the day, should be happy and smiling and ensure the same happiness and smile is there with her other partner and at the same time ensure to keep a positive frame of mind, instigate Confidence in herself and her partner in times of problems and be a Responsible individual knowing the practicalities of driving life and have or gain knowledge in financial planning, asset management and social security and status and have a calm and thoughtful approach in assessing and analyzing matters of any kind in any scenario and any situation and be precise and thoughtful before coming to any firm decision.
She should not have any loans of any kind payable to any financial institution towards her or her family members , relatives and friends.

She should be able to strike a balance between Personal Life and Work.
Girl must be willing to work in Govt/PSU. All form of support will be provided by me to her. I am more inclined and interested that my partner work in Govt/PSU job.”

The letter left me dazed.  The first thought that crossed my mind was “Is this guy serious?  Is he trying to find a girl or is he trying to make sure she gets so put off that she rejects him?”  The next thought was maybe he ought to be looking for a robot.  The responses from other members were pretty amusing.  Someone wondered how many women he would need to marry to find a wife with all these qualities.

The very first premise was very peculiar.  Why is he so concerned whether her family “owns” their home or lives in a rented one?  Does he plan to move in with them?  If so, why does he want her to adapt to his family’s religious practices?  And then he claims he is not fanatical about his religious practices nor should she be that way.  What if his parents insist on her following orthodox traditions?  He wants her to “respect” elder’s opinions.  He seems to contradict himself at every step.  The girl should be working in a government office or a PSU – the reasons are pretty obvious.  Then he says he will support her.  If she is all that he expects her to be, and does everything he expects her to do, why does she need his support in the first place?  And conversely, if he can support her, then why does he have so many demands of his wife?????  I would start to doubt the sanity of the man in the very first place.  I mean, I wonder if this is quite representative of the kind of demands of a typical young Indian male of today.  I doubt it, but still, I wonder.  If it is, God help the young women of today.


12 Responses to “The Eligible Prospective Wants ………”

  1. I wonder which planet this chap lives on!!!! And I doubt that any sane woman would want to marry such a weirdo!

  2. And govt job wonly , lol!

  3. wow!! i mean.. wow!! but i have to give this guy credit for one thing – he has at least bothered to put down his laundry list. so much better than the indian practice of saying “oh we just want a simple girl” and then looking for all of the above, and then some more. hats off to the guy for being honest. sadly, a lot of young men in the country feel this way.

  4. What a nutcase!

  5. I honestly dont think this guy is a lunatic. Look at things from a different perspective guys. He doesnt expect all women to behave this way. He only wants a woman to be this way provided she wants to be his partner. Perhaps his standards DO seem too high to be fulfilled. He sees marriage as a business venture (which is exactly what it is in my opinion. An un-needed business legal agreement )
    And he did NOT contradict himself in the religion part. He just wants her to be reasonably tolerant towards his religion.
    He is NOT insane. He has a plan. And he decided that if he has to marry, then he;d rather do it with someone who wouldnt make him compromise his plan. Whatever it is.

    • A one sided business legal arrangement where there is no talk of what he will do for her beyond “support her” – in what way is not clear. Does she need any support if she is capable of all this is yet another question. What qualities does he bring to the board are not mentioned. What kind of a business deal is this? A master-slave relationship? That cannot be called a business deal in any case. A master does not sign any contract with a slave. He captures a slave and keeps them in bondage all their lives.

      • I understand your point. But once again, a partner who has all or even most of the above mentioned qualities would ask him the same questions. And if he fails to provide a honest and sufficient answer, the partner would not consent.
        I just think this man is fixed on his own plans and offers no compromise. He has tried to cover all the boundaries that a common person finds her\his identity in. Almost perfectly like a perfectionist. Or a robot. If at all, if he expects a positive response for his demand he is either unreasonably naive, or perhaps he did this on purpose to repel away prospects. Or maybe he has an ulterior motive that is hidden to us.
        I seriously doubt if anyone would agree to his demands especially if they already fulfill the character of the person he has drafted. But judging purely by this letter, what is very well noticeable is that he is clear on what he wants and that is not a loving relationship.

  6. vishalbheeroo Says:

    such a moron and despo. He must be a jerk and I wonder the types in this world. It amazes me:(

  7. The American lady next to me on the flight, who happened to live in Delhi for 3 years, told me that there is a dryness of culture in Delhi and surrounding areas compared to rest of India. I find that reflected in the bitterness with which the bloggers from Delhi write about our society.
    I find more positivity and pride in the posts coming from peninsular India (coastal states – Mumbai, Bangalore, Chennai…) than those from the north, esp Delhi and its neighborhood. Not without reason, of course. There is both good and bad in our society, it is criminal to fail to see only one of the two.

  8. And why should this life partner want to get married to him?

Would be useful if we could have some option to block certain posters.

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